5 Steps to Achieving a Fulfilling Life (Part 2)
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In part one, we spoke about how many of my clients often struggle to connect their mind and their body. To create a sense of fulfilment in life you need to be able to identify your emotions and needs.
The idea of facing your emotions may seem quite daunting. There’s a reason you blocked yourself off from them in the first place. As scary as it may seem there are two choices here. You can stay as you are, avoiding your emotions, continuing to feel unfulfilled and potentially using food or alcohol to numb your feelings. Option 2, you can be brave and decide that you deserve better. You deserve to create a fulfilling life and feel safe while doing it.
Both options are hard. One option will have the potential to result in a better future while we know what the former option will result in. The same results you’ve been getting with the same unfulfilling life those actions have been creating.
Will you join me on the journey to create a more fulfilling life?
If yes, read on, where I will outline 5 actionable tools you can use right now to empower you to create an abundant and fulfilling life.
How can you create fulfilment in your life?
Learn to identify you emotional needs
When an emotion arises instead of reaching for food or a dopamine hit from your phone. Pause and take a moment to reflect:
What am I feeling right now?
Where am I feeling this emotion and sensation?
What is the emotion trying to tell me?
2. Relax
Take time to relax and recharge. Make sure you are taking time to take care of yourself, which could include taking a break, going for a walk, or meditating. It can be easy to meet everyone else's needs and forget to meet your own.
In step three you can create your own actionable plan on how you might do this.
3. Make a plan to meet your needs
Once you’ve started to identify your emotions and needs it’s time to start to make a plan to meet them.
Consider what resources you have available, your budget, and how much time you can dedicate to the task. For example, if you’re feeling lonely, you might make a list of people you could call who will help you feel connected. If you’re feeling angry, you might take a boxing class to help release built up tension.
4. Breathe
Breathwork can be a powerful tool to assist in connecting to and managing emotions. When you pay attention to your breath, you can use it to help regulate your nervous system. Helping you to become aware of the body’s physical sensations in a way that feels safe and manageable.
It also helps to oxygenate the body, which can help to release tension and create a more relaxed calm state. As a result, it can assist you to become more mindful of how you’re feeling and to develop a greater capacity for self-regulation.
Try it for yourself, breathe in for 3 seconds, hold for 3 seconds and breathe out for 3 seconds. Do this for 1 minute.
5. Ask for help when you need it.
You are not alone in this journey of life. As humans, we need connection to feel fulfilled. There is no shame in asking for help. It gives other people an opportunity to feel fulfilled by taking care of you. Whether it’s from a friend, family member, or professional, don’t be afraid to reach out for assistance if you need it.
