If Only I had Her Body Then……

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If only I had her body then……

There are a million ways I could finish this sentence.

Can you relate to this?

I know I can. We’ve all been there.

If only I was prettier, had bigger boobs, a bigger butt, smaller thighs, whiter teeth THEN I would be successful.

I went through a phase of thinking if I had whiter teeth all my problems would disappear. Because that was definitely what was causing everything to go awry in my life. It wasn’t a recent break up, a recent move or fact that I was going through a pandemic alone. It was definitely my teeth.

Someone may appear to have the ‘perfect life’ and the ‘perfect body’ but you have no idea the sacrifices or lengths they are willing to go to to achieve that life.

What if having her body meant body dissatisfaction, starvation, depression and missing out on life?

What if it meant sacrificing your mental capacity, physical, emotional and social health just to ‘appear’ like you are happy. But really on the inside you are screaming to escape the mental, physical and emotional prison you have created by undereating, over exercising and trying to mold your body into a shape and size it doesn't want to be.

In the end, what if all she wants is love, attention, and to feel valuable and worthy but instead to maintain that 'perfect body' she is exhausted, feels constantly out of control around food and feels like a failure.

Would you still want her body?

If you’ve read my FREE e-book or been following me for a while by now you will have realised your body size or shape does not dictate your worth or happiness.

You can be ANY size and happy. You can be ANY size and unhappy.

Usually when you are fixated on your body, a particular body part, a particular food or even a person it’s because you are trying to escape and avoid pain. Eating disorders and disordered eating are extremely effective coping mechanism until they become harmful.

So the question is;

What are you trying to avoid by fixating on your body?

What difficult feelings, event or task is lurking in the background that has you so deeply focused on what your body looks like to numb you from feeling worthless and unlovable?

Comparison is the thief of joy.

Instead of comparing your body to someone else’s and wishing you looked differently, try for a single moment to appreciate one thing about your body.

This is not always an easy feat. It can be extremely difficult when stuck in a cycle of body dissatisfaction to find a part of you that you like. That is why I am not asking you to find a body part you ‘love’ or like. I am asking you to search for a body part you can appreciate because of what it does for you. You may not like your lips but if you didn’t have lips it may be very difficult to talk. You may not like your stomach but if you didn’t have a stomach it would be very difficult to digest food and live a normal life.

Personally, I have not always had the most positive relationship with my legs but I am grateful everyday for my ability to walk. I may not love or even like every part of my body but I LOVE that I am so lucky after my spinal injury to still have two luscious legs that work.

Body Neutrality

You do not need to love your body or like your body to appreciate your body. Overcoming body dissatisfaction starts with gratitude and the ability to appreciate even the smallest thing about what your amazing body can do for you.

What does your body do for you?

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